Social Influences

What a kid can see growing up in India

But Nobody Buys this Stuff Anyway

I believed these things didn't affect people

Or make them feel insecure

Or lead to stereotypes

I was Guilty Too

Of making the occasional sexist/racist joke

But it was all in jest

I thought people were fine with it, they were friends after all

Life in California

I wanted to make new friends

I wanted to "belong"

I thought it would be easy

The Reality

I made some friends, but never close ones

Most people showed a surprising lack of interest in learning about my culture

Or I'd get things like "Oh your English is so good!"

I had to find ways to "break into" groups

Feeling included was always a challenge

Thoughts

Maybe I'm just a boring person?

Is it my fault? Am I complaining too much? Should I suck it up?

Just cultural differences?

Is American Politics Real?

Police brutality, sexual harassment are real problems

Xenophobia is fashionable again?

I always watch my back in public, at airports

How do I know what people really think of me?

The Key Learnings

Social Inclusion is an Active Process

Defined by real action

Passive observers are no more helpful than aggressors

It's YOUR Responsibility

Especially if you're lucky to be privileged

Ending discrimination will take real efforts from everyone

The Barriers to Inclusion are Real

Fear and doubt prevents people from reaching out. You reach out to them

If you don't agree, ask your friends and you might be surprised